Q&A How Can My Mate Help Restore My Honor?

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My husband is a recovering alcoholic who had several one-night stands, several sexual affairs and numerous emotional affairs during our 32 year marriage. Our first discovery was in August 2013. We have had many other discoveries and admissions up until about 6 months ago. We completed EMS Online last year. For many years things were very difficult between us - the alcoholism was affecting our lives and our children's lives significantly. I was completely unaware of the sexual addiction component. A big part of the secret life my husband was living involved several people I thought were mutual friends, who actually spent a few weekends two separate years with my husband and two different affair partners - camping and boating at a local lake where we also spent time as ka family. They not only condoned his behavior, they participated in it as though it was somehow acceptable and obviously kept many, many secrets for him and lied to me. We cut off all contact with these people following discovery, however my husband never did anything to clear the air with them, or restore my honor. In 2016, one of these "friends" took a job at my place of employment. We have 20 employees in a small government office. I continue to struggle with his presence. I cannot talk to him and he stares at me with antagonism at every opportunity. He has also talked about me behind my back to other employees. What can my husband do to make this situation better? What can he say or write in a letter to restore my honor with this person and his wife - which would get back to the other friends also?



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