Q&A How Can My Wife Believe That She Fulfilled Her Fantasy If She Also Says That’s Not Who She Truly Is?

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My wife’s betrayal started way back, after just 3 years being together and after multiple emotional and sexual affairs, culminated this year with making possible of one of our fantasy (sex with another women), but chose another man, not me. I'm devastated by this because some other factors (2 days after my anniversary and multiple layers of secrecy, manipulation and lies about this during our last 3 disclosures). I've reached the understanding that my wife "was not really her" during the infidelity acts as she told me from the start and she is doing everything to make things right (individual therapy from first moment, couple therapy, just started EMS Online, reading, researching, etc.), but last night when I've asked her if she considers that her fantasy was fulfilled she said that she thinks yes, she fulfilled her fantasy, even she was saying from the start that even she was there, "it wasn't her" and regrets everything that happened. How can she thinks that she fulfilled her fantasy if she thinks that she from the fantasy was not truly who she is?



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