I am married to a charismatic, controlling narcissistic man. I’ve told him that I need to see a change. I decided that I needed to put a no sex boundary in place. The way he has responded to the is so disappointing. Almost every encounter he points to us having sex. I told him that I love that part of our relationship and that I need him to realize how serious I am about a change. He also frequently asks if there are any cute guys at the gym or old wealthy guys. I tell him that I’m married and not looking. I told him a week ago that I felt like I was married to a time bomb. Then yesterday that time bomb went off, when he abruptly left our business in a victim state huffing and puffing. He tells me that he resents me for making him go to the intensive and bringing up the affairs. He said that he had already taken care of that and the women pursued him. The night after he left the office he told me that I needed to move out and get my education. He also said that we needed to stay put until he was off the sex offender list and our youngest graduated. I’ve talked to a lawyer and would appreciate insight into this.