Q&A How Do I Deal with My Husband Sharing Specific Details about Me with His Affair Partner?

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My husband gave the affair partner personal information about me. He told her that I suspected the affair, how I was reacting, that he did not intend to leave the marriage, etc. This was another betrayal, and allowed her to believe she was more trusted and important to my husband than me. I questioned him repeatedly about their relationship, and while he consistently denied it, he knew it was hurting me deeply but did not care. He included me in numerous social events with her, allowing me to be further humiliated and manipulated by them both. He did not protect me from this additional betrayal and intrusion. After a pause in the affair, my husband told her he "wanted to work on our marriage" and shared I was trying harder to meet his needs. When she expressed interest he went back to being sexual with her, proving he still wanted her, despite anything I could do or be. Socializing with her during this time solidified this further and mocked me and my efforts. She was aware of all of this when she looked me in the eye and smiled, pretending to be friendly. And he ley me be exposed to this repeatedly. How do I deal with this? Specifically knowing how much he shared about me, and exposing me to her, and him demonstrating - by his actions - that he was continuing to choose her despite my actions?



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