Q&A How do We Deal With Chronic Pain, Medication Addiction, and Affair Recovery?

We are in week 11 of EMSO. We are 8 months out of Dday. So lets throw in the abuse of prescription pain meds. I knew he was having issues with it. He has a new job that is more physical than expected. But he is lying about it to me. As well as saying things like " I don't remember" Well I heard that 8 months ago. All of this makes me question rather he even knows what truth "is. I feel I have been an enabler. It is coming to light that I am codependent as well as he shows some traits of that as well. How do we even heal and break this co-dependency thing? I am scared as I break away from codependency I may just break away from the marriage. How do we deal with chronic pain, medication addictions, and affair recovery? What do I even say to him, or does my talking make it worse? I love him and I know he is a great man that has just simply gotten off course (way off). I don't even know if my questions can be answered. I can’t fit all the ends in outs in 250 words, I couldn't do it in 250,000 words. I'm just hurt and looking for direction on this.