My husband's affair was very long, 8 years, with the women I knew very well. I found about the affair because woman became pregnant. Since the discovery day my husband do not keep any contact with her, at least that what he says, and he tells there is no desire in him to do so but he has a desire to take part in his child's life. We decided to put it on the side and first resolve a problem with our recovery and than- when we will be enough strong in our marriage we will deal with the child issue. But this situation do not help in recovery process and make me feel very unsafe. Since a long time I'm having this strong desire to confront my husband with the affair partner and myself. I really need to see him standing on my side and telling other woman that I'm "the love of his life" and he will never come back to her. There is a strong feeling in myself that I'm not able to believe my husband before I see it. Is it a good idea? If not- could you explain why? If yes- could you tell how to do it to be beneficial for the recovery process?