It's exactly 6 weeks since d-day and one week since completing EMS weekend. Safety is returning and my wife is doing the work to rebuild and heal. I have not had physical intimacy in 2 years and 10 months. Her affair lasted almost 4 years and was regularly physical most of that time. I agreed at EMS to no sex for a time so she could heal from the past. As we heal I am torn. It's so painful to continue without after waiting so long. I am deeply grieved. It happened in our house which is a constant reminder even after praying over the spot. I can't ask her without risking our agreement and I have so little confidence to know what to do if it does happen. How much turmoil and time must I suffer without knowing my wife's touch and desire?