I don't ask many questions now, but the ones I do ask are deep questions, such as "have you discovered the real reason you chose to have affairs, instead of the justifications you have been using as your reasons?" His therapist has told him that he does not have to answer any more questions if he has already answered them once. He gets very angry when I ask a repetitive question. So I have resolved to ask no more questions. I realize that this will inhibit healing, but it's not worth the emotional abuse he dishes out.