Q&A Short of a Polygraph, Can I Trust That He's Telling Me the Truth?

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I had a gut feeling my husband was being unfaithful during his year long affair. I confronted him many times but he denied it not just to me but to our friends and our couple’s therapist. I eventually found out through an email to me from his AP, which he confirmed was true. He told his AP that he was involved with other women but holds to it that he only told her that to manipulate her into feeling more comfortable in the casualness of their relationship. I’ve suspected him on two other occasions so now I worry that he was telling the AP the truth and he’s lying to me through our recovery. We’re in EMSO and individual therapy but I’m terrified he’s lying about full disclosure and I fear a second D-Day. I was gaslit for so long I’m not sure where to place my trust; I can trust my gut that was right before or trust a man who lied to me for a year that appears to be doing all the right things in recovery. Short of a polygraph, how can I trust he’s telling me the truth?



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