Q&A Should I Confront My Mate With the Evidence of His Relapse?

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Dear Rick,

I wrote a month ago and my question was: “How do I Deal With Anger and Lack of Trust After the Affair Has Ended?”. I told you my husband and I have been doing remarkably well and have a renewed happy life together after his two year long affair, but I still deal with trust and anger issues privately. I heard your advise on reading a book you recommended called “Stuck”, yet I still felt the need to calm some of my fears. and answer some of my own nagging questions as to why I might still feel this way.

So, I put an hidden gps devise in my husband’s car for the last week. All seemed to be going fine and I felt great relief, and then today I woke up to see that he had gone to his supposed X-AP’s house this morning on his way to work. I about lost my mind. This is a woman he told me he had no contact with anymore, and as far as I knew had not in over a year. He and I have been so doing so incredibly well and are extremely loving and I cannot believe this is happening. I cannot go through what I went thorough for two years again.

Should I confront him immediately or keep tracking his car for a period of time and see if it is a continuing pattern, or what? I feel completely sick, and “stuck”! HELP!



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