Hi Rick. We are 10 months past D-Day where I confessed to my wife of 23 years that I had several online and physical affairs over an 8 year period of time. We have been seeing a counselor for the past 10 months since my confession. In our session today, our counselor suggested that my wife confront one of my APs and tell her that what she (we) did was not OK and that she is offended by the behavior of this other woman. Likewise, our counselor has suggested that I write a letter to this woman apologizing to her for my role in the affair stating that it was wrong and also apologize to her husband directly for doing this. I broke off all contact with this woman immediately after D-Day and have not been in contact with her or any other AP since. I do not think her husband is aware of the infidelity. Similarly, our counselor suggested that I follow these same steps with all affair partners I am able to contact. I don't really want to initiate any type of contact with this woman or others or their husbands. I don't feel it is my place to expose the infidelity of others. Our counselor thinks it is part of our healing process and part of making amends. Do you agree?