We are 9 months out from our last D-Day and there has been 18 months of trickle truth. The grief is still horrific because the length of the betrayal, our whole marriage, 34 years. Many affairs and one night stands, ect. We attended the EMS Weekend last January, and we are in Marriage for Life. My question is about flooded grief. At times I go into these giant waves of grief, that can last for a hour, or even more. With crying and explaining my pain through my cries, at times, I cross the line with anger and cuss, but not like I used too. Our question is, what should be the boundary on this? I know in a heated conversation, when one is flooded they call a timeout. But this isn’t a conversation or a fight, it's just me letting my pain out to him. So what should be the boundary on this in this time of our healing?