Q&A What Type of Affair Is This?

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My husband met a woman in AA and they spent months exchanging phone calls, texts, and meeting up to talk. He even went to go see her at work, became fascinated with her car, wanted to meet her needs, prioritized her needs over my needs, talked to her INSTEAD of me and invested more time in his relationship with her instead of his relationship with me. He states that his relationship was purely just sharing his thoughts and feelings and that he had no romantic or sexual feelings for her. Is this an emotional affair? He says that he didn’t care about her in any way other than being “just friends” and “trying to help each other out”. The things that he said and did do not support that. He did mention one time that she was his type but that he didn’t think he would do anything about that. He doesn’t see how damaging this is and has a lot of pride. He doesn’t want to admit to anything other than talking to her. He doesn’t see how meeting up with her and prioritizing her and all of these other things makes it more than just talking. He invited her out to dinner to “verify sobriety” when I was out of town and he invited her to sleep in our daughter’s bed when she was tired and we were out of town. He does acknowledge these were wrong. What type of affair is this?



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