Q&A When Will the Urge to Snoop End?

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My husband recently disclosed new information to me during the 'Story Telling' activity of the EMS Online Course. He finally admitted to me that a relationship he had with a female co-worker about 5-6 years ago was inappropriate and flirtatious as I had always suspected back then. Because I was so upset back then, he ended that relationship. However, not long ago I felt the urge to snoop through his email, and saw that she recently tried contacting him just last November 2019 through an old social media account. My husband doesn't use the account or any social media anymore so he never knew that she tried to reach out. However, I found myself wanting to login to his old account to accept her connection request, pretend to be my husband and reach out to her. I don't know what I would hope to gain out of it, except to see if she would maybe start 'reminiscing' about their past and see if she still missed him at all. I know that my husband would be greatly upset if I opened up that old door again especially without him knowing about it, but I find I have this strong urge to constantly investigate and dig into what really happened. It all makes me feel completely insane and I don't know how to control this new strong urge to rehash the past. Is this feeling unhealthy and how do I stop it?

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