Q&A Why Did My Mate Choose to Stay Committed to the Affair Partner?

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My wife revealed to me that during her 4 month affair she would feel used, dirty, and would get depressed after having sex with him. She stated that she gradually became worse with each encounter. She explained to me that she was never emotionally attached to her affair partner, that it was all about the attention she received from him, and how he made her feel special. After the initial feelings of being liked and wanted she found herself lacking the full desire to be around him but she couldn’t understand why she couldn’t say no to him. Can you help explain why my wife felt committed to him despite feeling disgusted after sex with him and not having any limerence for him?



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There’s so much more to this,

There’s so much more to this, “I feel dirty, can’t stop or say no”, entangledness. Particularly without imprinting. Would like to see further discussion or direction on this.

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