Q&A Why Isn't My Wayward Husband Interested in Me Sexually?

I'm at the end of my rope. We are 30 years married and 20 months out from discovery. Been through EMSO and are doing MFL. We are rebuilding and getting along well. My husband isn't interested in me sexually anymore. He had a 4 year affair with a married woman that he seemed to have been able to break off pretty easily. He told me his affair was very sexual. He told our marriage counselor that the sexual feelings for me are not there. I feel so rejected. Again. He will cuddle and kiss me in a semi intimate way, but nothing else.He's 58, I'm 55.Though he has had ED problems since discovery, not only does he have medication, but after a complete check-up, his doctor told him there is nothing wrong with him physically. It's not that he can't get erections. He gets them every night while he's asleep. We are both attractive people and look years younger than we actually are. I'm just not sure why he's not interested in me. It hurts because I love him and don't want to live like roommates. Should I just throw in the towel? This journey has been rough. I feel like he's never going to want me again.