In my opinion ALL infidelity is abusive. For example I would never had sex with my unfaithful husband had I known he was having an affair. In that way I was abused by him. I dare say raped. When we deceived by a spouse due to infidelity we are abused. I normally agree with Wayne but this time he missed the mark for me.

Thank you for addressing this. The word abuse is thrown around so much that the lines start to get blurred. There is no justification for an affair. That being said there are too many labels getting slapped on personal opinions and it’s just too broad of a term. Great question and great response.

I am surprised by this response. It is abusive to me in that the unfaithful spouse is making decisions on behalf of the betrayed spouse that don't take into consideration the physical and emotional well being of the betrayed spouse. How is that not abusive? To me that is the definition of abuse.

I wish this question would have been addressed differently too. I many times feel like people want me to stay with the man who abused me, by being unfaithful many times, lying, gaslighting etc. I feel like it is abuse myself. I wish he would of went into more explanations of when it is could be or isn’t. Could you please address this question again?