Rick Reynolds, LCSW
by Rick Reynolds, LCSW
Founder & President, Affair Recovery

Expert Q&A Preview: How Do I Handle the Abrupt Emotional Changes?


How do I deal with strong emotions that change for no seemingly good reason at all? For example, one day I will feel completely fine, loved, hopeful, happy, grateful for this wake-up call, & motivated to work on us (currently in EMSO) & do the best for my family and in the next moment I will feel disgust, dread, unloved and unloving, like I just want to leave my spouse & start my life over, one that I deserve. I'm the betrayed spouse.



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Abrupt emotional changes

Good question. I'm the betrayed spouse as well (very fresh wound - D-Day was 4/1/17- No April Fool's) and I have these huge pendulum swings where one minute I'm hopeful and resolved to fix our marriage, and the next minute I'm in complete dispair, feeling like I can't possibly go on another minute, sobbing uncontrollably for hours. My husband is doing everything textbook 'right' to repair the damage and continue our life together and I know this is where I want to be; at the same time the pain is so deep, I don't know what to do with it.

Emotional swings

I am the unfaithful,
I am concerned for my husband's extreme emotional swings. We are both committed to staying married. When is seeking out medicine to help him get control. Our D day is only a few weeks.