Hi Rick,
I wrote an amends letter to the people that my husband confided in during my 1 month affair. I used the HURT format and sent letters to my husband’s parents, my brother in-law and his now wife, two mentors, and two close friends of my husband. My husband told a lot of people about my affair, and since regrets this since we’ve reconciled and completed EMSO.

I have received forgiveness from all except my Husband’s family. I sent the letter 5 months ago, but my Father in-law still refuses to talk to me. I did have a conversation with my Mother in-law where she extended forgiveness toward me, but then she called my husband the next day to tell him what she really thinks about me. When she does talk to my husband she continues to tell him to leave me and blames me.

I’m not sure what to do with this. I can’t make them forgive me.

Any advice is welcome.

Thank you.

Hi Rick,

Just reaching out again. It’s been 18 months since D-Day. I wrote amends letters last year using the HURT format, but continue to face hostility from my husband’s family. When you have apologized, when is enough, enough. How long do I have to endure mean comments.

Thank you,
nrob