Recovery Fundamentals
Start with the basics when first walking the road to recovery. Developing a systematic plan for recovery will enable you to stick to your basic recovery principles even when things get tough.
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1184 Resources
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Text Common Justifications for Why Women Cheat 6/29/2022
Video How Does My Spouse Escape the Neurochemical Process of Limerence? 6/22/2022
Text Why Couples Fail After an Affair | Part 4 - Not Grieving the Loss 6/15/2022
Video Q&A How Do My Wife and I Avoid Pretending Normal and Actually Tackle the Issue of Infidelity? 6/14/2022
Video Q&A How Do I Respond to the Betrayed’s Triggers When It’s Affecting My Mental Health Now? 6/14/2022
Video Q&A Am I Depriving Myself of True Healing in the Long Term If We Are Using This Method to Cope? 6/14/2022
Text Why Couples Fail After an Affair | Part 3 - Hiding in Denial 6/08/2022
Text Why Couples Fail After an Affair | Part 1 - Not Knowing What Happened 5/25/2022
Video Q&A How Do You Know If You Are Grieving or If You Are Wallowing? 5/24/2022
Video Q&A How Can I Channel My Own Genuine Positivity and Stop Being Concerned or Insulted by His Behaviors or Attitudes? 5/24/2022
Video Q&A Where Does a Failed Polygraph Leave Us in Regards to a Timeline in Recovery? 5/24/2022
Video Q&A Can You Help Us Understand Our Love Language Differences? 5/24/2022
Video Q&A How Do You Make Your Partner Feel Understood, Trusted, like They Matter, and That It’s Ok to Make Mistakes, Without Enabling Bad Behavior? 5/24/2022
Text Wanting to Be Wanted 5/04/2022
Video Tony & Debbie Mentor Video 5/01/2022
Video Limerence: Infatuation and How It Works 4/27/2022
Video Q&A What Is the Best Way to Discuss the Questions That Most Wayward Spouses Get from the Betrayed? 4/20/2022
Video Romanticism: Don't Believe the Lie 4/13/2022
Video Q&A How Do I Let Myself Be Happy Again? 4/08/2022
Video Q&A How Do We Handle Defensiveness? 4/08/2022
Video Q&A How Do I Move Forward Knowing That He Already Has The Mindset That This Could Happen Again? 4/08/2022
Video Q&A How Can I Convince Her to Engage More in the Group Therapy? 4/08/2022
Video Q&A What Can I Do to Support Him but Also Be Heard? 4/06/2022
Video Q&A How Can I Communicate So That He Does Not Feel Condemned? 4/06/2022
Video Q&A How Do You Heal the Relationship with the Betrayed’s Extended Family? 4/06/2022
Video Q&A How Do We Move Forward after Several Relapses? 4/06/2022
Text Six Types of Affairs: Love Addiction 4/06/2022
Text Six Types of Affairs: Emotional Affair 4/06/2022
Text Six Types of Affairs: Wanting the Marriage and the Affair 4/06/2022
Text Six Types of Affairs: Sexual Addiction 4/06/2022
Text Six Types of Affairs: Fallen in Love 4/06/2022
Text Six Types of Affairs 4/06/2022
Video What Is A Forgiveness Letter? 3/16/2022
Video Q&A How Should I as a Wayward Spouse Approach My Spouse’s Continual Desire for Reassurance? 3/10/2022
Video Q&A How Do We Create a Shared View of Our Relationship When We Have No Valid Timelines to Reference? 3/10/2022
Video Q&A How Long Does It Take for Desire for My Mate to Return after Severing Ties with My Affair Partners? 3/10/2022
Video Q&A When an Intrusive Thought Occurs, How Do I Know the Difference between Suppressing and Ignoring That Thought versus Not Giving It Any Airtime, Capturing It, and Redirecting My Thinking to Something Else? 2/02/2022
Video Q&A How Can I Get To a More Balanced Psyche? 2/02/2022
Video Announcing NEW Infidelity Video Blog: Songs for the Soul 1/26/2022
Video Q&A What Do We Do When We Both Cheated, If My Betrayal Was ‘Worse’ than His? 1/18/2022
Video Q&A What Do I Do When the Betrayed Spouse Shuts Me Out and Doesn’t Want to Talk about His Pain, Unless Forced? 1/18/2022
Text Pimping Tenderness & Grooming Behaviors 1/12/2022
Video Q&A Why Is He Okay as Long as I Don’t Talk about It? How Can We Get past This If He’s Unwilling to Answer Questions? 12/17/2021
Video Q&A At What Point Is It Unhealthy to Be Avoiding Events Because the Affair Partner May Go or Avoiding Places Because They Once Went There Together? 12/17/2021
Text Social Shame: Four Ways to Stay In It 12/13/2021
Text Social Shame: Surviving Infidelity Isn’t Enough 12/08/2021
Text Social Shame: Have You Been Dishonored? 12/01/2021
Text Social Shame: Understanding the Paralysis of it 11/24/2021
Video Q&A What Can I Ask My Spouse to Do That Also Requires the Same Amount of Effort in the Process of Recovery? 11/19/2021
Video The Use and Abuse of the Polygraph 11/10/2021

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