Samuel shares insight in today's video specifically for those who feel like they didn't ask for this trauma but still find themselves in crisis following the discovery of infidelity and affairs.
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I Didn't Ask for This
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I didn't ask for this
I am the betrayed and yes you lost me when you compared an affair to cancer. The two are not the same. While most cancers are unexpected and not preventable, an affair is entirely preventable - it is the choice of the cheating partner to put that "cancer" on the other.
but....context...
i beg to differ
i'm sorry but i beg to differ. i think you missed the point and are projecting on samuel the fact that your spouse cheated. samuel said that no one chooses cancer but they still have to heal. if they want to live that is. it's about your healing and your choices and your response. not your spouse. for me, i had to get after it in my own recovery. my spouse did what they did. but i had a choice how i responded. i didn't ask for it. i hated it for sure. but, it's happened. i've embraced it. i have to heal. you my friend, have to choose to heal. not get upset when someone confronts your lack of healing and your need to still focus on you. all you can do is all you can do and i'm not sure that you are seeing what samuel is saying with clarity. you can't refuse to heal because youre pist at your spouse. you need to heal if you want to get your life back. i hope you'll get it back and heal. i have found healing and insight, despite the trauma of a five year affair and numerous trips to the strip club. be kind to samuel as i think you'll hear his heart to help those in crisis on the site .