This is my first experience with spousal infidelity, and it is devastating. I've listened to the other women in my group, and it sounds like it is a behavior cheaters tend to repeat. Some of their spouses have cheated 3 times, some have had 7 affairs. The prospect of dealing with this again terrifies me. It makes me think perhaps I'm being very foolish to try to reconcile with someone who is doomed to repeat this horrific behavior. I don't think I could survive a second infidelity. I barely feel like I can survive this right now. Do you think cheaters are just morally bankrupt, and are more predisposed to repeating this despicable behavior? I guess what I'm asking is -- once a cheater, always a cheater? Are we better off just walking away and trying to start anew? I don't want to reinvest in a relationship or a person that is just bound to destroy me. I already have PTSD from this instance, and even twice a week therapy is barely making a dent in the pain and rage I'm cycling through, along with the unwanted, unbidden, obsessive thoughts and the nightmares I'm enduring.