Q&A How Long Should I Try to Hold On? To watch the video please purchase a subscription to the Recovery Library. To watch the video, please purchase a subscription to the Recovery Library.Gain unlimited access to over 1,800 articles and expert Q&A videos.Already a Recovery Library member? Log in to listen to the full recording.Question: 14 months since initial discovery of my wife's emotional affair with someone online, 1 year since she claimed it was over, 5 months since I discovered continued contact and asked her to cut off all contact with him and get counseling or move out. She got mad at my demands, left me and our sons (10 & 12), to stay with a divorced friend and her 2 children. She has been saying she just needs time but hasn't sought counseling and just recently sought treatment for hormone imbalance in August. They said her hormone levels were at "rock bottom" and began customized therapy. I love my wife. 23 years married is too long to give up on the woman I love, especially if she is sick. But I'm just so weary from the fight. I don't know how long to hold on. Could hormones mess her up that bad? She once walked close to God, and now says she is resisting Him because she knows if she surrenders to Him that He would ask her to return to her marriage and she doesn't want to do that right now. Sounds like she knows exactly what she is doing and what she wants to me! I feel like someone stole my wife and replaced her with someone else in the same shell. I don't want a divorce and I don't want to try to force some decision that could backfire when she is only a month into medical treatment. But the waiting and wondering is agony. Advice? Sections: Leslie and John's callsRL_Category: Find HopeQ&A Recovery LibraryRecovering AloneSeparation and DivorceRL_Media Type: Video
