My husband was in a category-4 affair for five months until it was discovered by the affair partner’s husband. He said he did not feel limerence with his affair partner but I know he seemed addicted to her. Whether or not he had it the fact that they need to have no contact with each other makes me feel like I’m in the way of what they really want. And I stay in this panic place that they might run into each other and those feelings come back. He swears he doesn’t have feelings for her but I think he’s just saying that to me to make me feel safe. If it is limerence does that mean If they run into each other or if she reached out to him he will want her again or is that feeling something that is over and can’t come back? I think this is what is making me want to leave because I don’t want to be in the middle like they can’t be together because I found out. Trusting God with my husband is such a scary concept because they were so good at hiding it before and I’m not sure when it would have ended if they weren’t caught.