Q&A Am I Crazy for Not Wanting My Husband to Be around His Affair Partner?

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My husband had an affair with a married co-worker who was also his gym and golf partner during that time. It ended early this year but they still work together. He has been miserable since he stopped going to his gym early in the morning the way he used to with her. Instead we've been going together evenings and weekends but he's not happy about that time of day and I'm not a morning person. I finally gave in and said he could go several mornings a week since the AP is probably not there those days but no guarantee. He doesn't see what the problem is if he ignores her even if she is there. I also found out that she still plays golf in his league every other week. Again he doesn't see the harm since they don't play together or speak to one another. I'm not sure I believe that they ignore each other and have no conversations in either of these situations. Am I crazy or is putting himself in these situations just asking for trouble eventually? I just don't even want them being around each other - work, gym, golf - it's too hard for me. Too many reminders of what was. I'm extremely tired of continually discussing these same issues. These circumstances just keep my anger alive. He just doesn't understand why I should be upset that she still seems to be everywhere he is. Your thoughts please.



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