Q&A How Do We Maintain Peace When We Live in Close Proximity to the Affair Partner?

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My husband and I are 2 years from D-Day. We attended EMS Weekend, I have completed Harboring Hope, now lead Harboring Hope, and we have come a long way. I have worked with my affair partner, he was my principal and I'm a teacher, for the past six years. Working for him has been hard for both my husband and me. My husband has constant triggers of vehicles like my affair partner’s, men that look like him, etc. I don't know how we are going to handle constantly seeing him in our neighborhood, a very small neighborhood, where sightings will be frequent both in our vehicles and walking. My husband doesn't want to move as we have lived in our house 15 years and have paid enough consequences while my affair partner appears to have none, his wife is unaware of the affair. What are some ways to have peace in our home while having this guy in such close proximity? My husband texted the affair partner and warned him this was a bad idea and the affair partner purchased the house anyway.



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Close proximity and peace

Rick, what is not addressed your answer and what I believe compounds her husband's anxiety is that she still works with her AP. As someone in the same situation (my unfaithful mate continues to work with the AP), I can assure you that seeing the AP in the neighborhood just adds to his anxiety of dealing with the fact that they work/are together 5 day a week. Unfortunately, I've not yet found peace with that, 17 months post D-day. I certainly agree that the most effective way to recover "us" is "no contact with the AP".

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