Q&A Does My Husband’s Sexual Performance Indicate a Serious Issue?

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My husband has a porn addiction and masterbation issue including doing it next to me as I sleep. We’ve just finished EMS Weekend. When we have sex, sometimes he ejaculates quickly and there is a large amount of ejaculate. To me, that signifies intense arousal. But sometimes, it takes more work, much longer time and much more intense sex to achieve that. Those times, the amount of ejaculate is almost non existent. This last time, due to an injury, it had been two weeks since we were together last. The sex took intense work and the amount of ejaculate was almost none. I had assumed since it had been awhile, there would be quite a bit and it would be one of those quick arousals since he hadn’t sexually been touched by me. Does this indicate that he has been masterbating and the normal amount of arousal isn’t working? Also, does the amount of ejaculate signify that he has been active? I’m assuming the more porn use, the higher level of arousal from me won’t be effective. Or is this just a normal biochemical situation?



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