Rick - We are 10 months post D-day. My rollercoaster emotions and trauma (as the betrayed) are much better, though there are still triggers and misunderstandings. My unfaithful spouse is doing serious therapy for the sexual acting out, and for alcohol/porn problems dating back 30 years. We're told that he has a "textbook" background that led to a pattern of conflict avoidance and and self-medicating. I attend 12-step meetings for codependence. We talk out our conflicts and share our feelings deeply. I love this guy and am soooo proud of him. But there's an inequality. I'm feeling better and better, while the addiction therapy makes him feel really down and bad about himself. Help! He has also lapsed into repeating the half-truths that he used to justify the infidelity. How can we move forward? Should we repeat a chapter from EMSO? Maybe "Truth in Love." Thank you!