Wayne has offered such sage advice! I made the mistake of allowing my wayward spouse to say, “I want things to be different,” without asking him to express precisely what “things” he wanted. I spent ten years attempting to “be different” without any specific guidance, losing my identity and forgetting how to express my needs. I am reluctant to speak for him, but I suspect he spent the same time period feeling that “things” were not different at all because he did betray me again. I am sad to report that now we are divorced. I encourage you to take Wayne’s advice. What do you have to lose?!