As the betrayed spouse, I want my husband to make a lot of the effort as we begin to reconcile & reconnect. I see him taking baby steps in being the leader in our recovery. I really want him to take the lead in the romance department, too, as I think that I was the more romantic person before discovering his infidelity. I don’t want to offer him suggestions to only have him do what I suggested. I don't see any real effort put forth in doing that. Can you suggest some resources (books, lists, websites, etc) with romantic things he could pick from to help us as a couple? My online searches display lots of things to do, yet, I find them lacking with regard to infidelity, which I think makes it a bit different. Thank you in advance!