Q&A How Do We Continue Moving Forward?

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My husband and I attended EMS weekend in November of 2018. At that time we were about 1 1/2 years out from our D-day of my husband’s 5 year affair with a coworker. We felt like we had made significant progress at the weekend and came out much better equipped for our recovery. We completed Beyond EMS & moved into the Married for Life program. Unfortunately, of the 5 couples that we started out with in our small group, at this point we were down to just 3. About 2-3 weeks into the Married for Life, the other 2 couples continued to struggle with reconciling their marriages and chose not to move in the direction of reconciliation. So, then there was “one”. We are now approaching our 2 year mark and aside from all of our great progress, I (the betrayed) am feeling very scared, stuck, and doubtful. I’m very fearful of the future because we are back “on our own” & that we may not be receiving enough help & support to maintain our recovery. This fear of mine is causing our recovery to move backwards rather than forwards. Where should we turn? Is it maybe just my issue of being “stuck”? At what point is it OK to let go of “help” and navigate on your own again as a couple? We are desperately trying to recover and come out on the better side of all this mess.



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