Q&A How do we Handle a Persistent Affair Partner?

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What does the Bible say about how the betrayed partner and unfaithful partner should handle the persistent affair partner? My husband the unfaithful partner says that it is not right for him or me to be extremely firm with her. He thinks that telling her to stay away while the tone of his words were weak and uncomfortable was enough. That he did the best he could do and that by my criticizing it showed a lack of empathy for him. I feel like the effort only created more possibilities for the affair partner. She has shown a great deal of persistence and I am afraid she will never go away. I am a Christian woman but have been very hurt by the affair and have admittedly said many things to him that I regret. I have exhibited some rage and he feels I am only thinking of myself with no appreciation for his circumstances. At the same time, as the betrayed partner, I am told I do not have a right to speak with her or make contact with her because she is not the problem and sometimes it encourages further communication. I have been told to stop playing the victim, forgive him and move on. I could not be more frustrated and need some personal relief from my circumstances. Are their verses in the Bible that you can direct me to regarding the proper biblical approach to this? Do I simply turn the other check?



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