Q&A Is It Productive to Healing and Reconciliation for the Unfaithful to Withhold Sex?

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I am the betrayed, about 7 weeks from d-day. My wife has started to become very burnt out on talking about the affair. I have not even gotten all the details yet because she has so much shame it's very hard for her to talk about it. She recently began to frame the 3 encounters as violations and is more and more behaving like a victim of her affair partner and even a victim of me talking about it too much. She states that talking about it is making her feel unclean, and therefore if I insist on doing so she's going to have to "take sex off the table." The fact is, we speak about it less often as days go by, yet she gets more uncomfortable about it when we do. Does it make sense to the healing and reconciliation process for the unfaithful to withhold sex as long as the betrayed still wants to talk about the affair?



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