Q&A What Should Our Next Step in Recovery Be?

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We are 5 years from D-Day. Within the first couple weeks we went to a couple counseling sessions however never spoke of the event or even the future of the marriage since then. Things have been "normal" for a marriage for several years. However, in the past three months my wife for the first time has voiced that she wants out of the marriage. This has brought things to a head once again and she often repeats that if I hadn't betrayed her we wouldn't be in this spot. After about a week of sleeping in separate rooms, to protect the three kids we have agreed to stay in the same room. She seems to feel stuck in the marriage to protect the kids, says she loves me but does not think she can heal with me, and sees no future with me. a couple months have passed and we speak and laugh however she has cut off all touching and will not change in the same room as me. She has opened up to saying I love you back to me when I leave the house, however she has become as secretive as I use to be with her phone usage. I mentioned AR to her and she did at least two days of the boot camp on her own. She knows I am signed up for the next hope for healing session. Do I mention again to her about EMS Online or the weekend retreat? I did speak to her a month ago and said I would wait for her to bring it up if she wanted to go. Can you help identify where we are in the healing process and what you would recommend as far as next steps? Would a weekend or online be the a better fit?



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