Rick, I love most of what you counsel to as a standard. However, I don't agree at 2 years you should have moved on to other discussions rather than the details of the betrayel. We've been married nearly 30 years and my spouse didn't attend therapy for almost a year and still, in my mind, doesn't answer questions, rather its "I don't remember", "it's not important", "let's move on". I couldn't agree more with the last statement. My spouse is now in couples counseling and going on on their own as well. Our therapist says my spouse has never been introspective and this must be learned and it will take time as my spouse will be 68years old next month. The "onion peeled" back some last fall with the reveal my late father in law, would discipline my spouse and point at them and order them not to cry. So years have passed with the pushing down of emotions....everyone's journey takes different amounts of time depending on the circumstances. You great work, but some of us are on a time table controlled by our spouses.