Matt Monteverde's struggle with infidelity was rooted in deep, unaddressed personal issues. The PTSD from his time in the military and law enforcement led him down a path of becoming an emotionally abusive alcoholic who placed the blame on his wife. When his wife stood firm, Matt believed a lie and pursued an unfaithful act for validation, creating catastrophic wreckage in his marriage and inflicting profound betrayal trauma.

At his lowest, however, a spiritual awakening spurred a vital decision: he had to stop making excuses and commit to showing up differently.

Showing up differently is choosing not to allow yesterday’s pain and struggle to dictate what you’ll do today. It’s choosing not to give up, even when all seems lost. It’s choosing to take a step—even a baby step—toward healing when you’re unsure what steps two or three will look like. It’s choosing to throw your white flag in the air and allow others to see you. It’s finding help and accepting you’re not alone.

After months of this new commitment, his wife found Affair Recovery, leading them to EMS Weekend. The weekend provided the experience and environment that was the catalyst for healing within their marriage. Matt’s story is proof that, if you are willing to show up differently, no matter how far gone you think you are, healing is still possible.