Q&A How Can I Help my Husband Forgive Himself for Leaving his Affair Partner?

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My husband had an 18 month affair and says he loved his affair partner. The most recent discovery day was one month ago (he ended the affair several times but then relapsed.) I know he feels tremendous guilt over what he did to her - I know he made all sorts of promises, including telling her that he would leave me and our two children to be with her. She desperately didn't want him to finally end the affair and choose me so now he feels bad for what he did to her. He says she didn't deserve it, even though he understands that she entered into the relationship knowing he was married. Is there a way I can help him through these emotions or will time eventually help him to forgive himself and move on?



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