All Categories After a betrayal, your mind goes in 90 million directions all at once and you may not even know where to begin. Use the categories in the Recovery Library to discover what areas of recovery resonate with your struggle and find the specific guidance you need. Must Reads more less The Problem with Forgiveness 20 Most Common Mistakes of the Hurt Spouse 31 Reasons to Stop an Affair: Part 1 Why Did My Spouse Cheat? A Crucial Question In Healing After An Affair Why Couples Fail After an Affair | Part 1 - Not Knowing What Happened How to Survive Infidelity Untransformed Pain will be Transmitted Does Time Heal All Wounds? Healing After An Affair Bedside Forgiveness: When Death Coincides With Infidelity Affair Recovery Timeline for Healing After Betrayal Coping with Infidelity: The 2 Stages of Pain Discovery: Part 1 - How to Handle Discovery How Long Does It Take to Recover From An Affair? Rebuilding Trust After An Affair Pimping Tenderness & Grooming Behaviors How Could You? 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Surviving Infidelity: The #1 Challenge to Recovery 4970 Resources Type Title Posted It's been 4 months since d-day and my wife is beeing taunted by my AP which is making her angry with me, how should I respond? 3/26/2012 We're nine months into recovery and my mate has slipped and been inconsistent with SAA and therapy, should I tell our kids what's going on? 3/26/2012 Does the fact that I'm a sex addict automatically make me a co-sex-addict? 3/26/2012 Rick's Q & A on April 2 3/26/2012 Social Media, Emotional Affairs & Infidelity 3/22/2012 Rick's Q & A call on March 26 3/19/2012 If my husband has been unfaithful for the past 9 years can we change? Have I been married to a single man for the past 9 years and is there anything worth salvaging in our marriage? 3/19/2012 Is it okay to share my opinions with my mate regarding the root of their problem? 3/19/2012 If my husband didn't tell me everything at discovery does that make our last 4 years a lie? 3/19/2012 Surviving Infidelity: Finding the Root Problem And How To Heal 3/14/2012 Rick's Q & A call on March 12 3/05/2012 How do I take care of myself and my little ones as our family breaks apart? How do I heal when my husband wont do what it takes? 2/24/2012 Rick's Q & A call on March 5 2/24/2012 It's been a year since discovery and I'm still confused, we don't seem as close, should I give up if I'm still not sure what to do? 2/24/2012 Survey results for Valentine’s Day: Surviving Infidelity & Surviving Valentine’s Day 2/14/2012 Rick's Q & A Call on February 27 2/13/2012 The Valentine's Day After Syndrome and Survey Results 2/13/2012 Welcome to the Recovery Library 2/02/2012 I found the chapter on reminders to be helpful, but need help with how to counter my intrusive thoughts with the truth, any suggestions? 1/31/2012 My wife is lying about contact with her AP and is planning on meeting him, should I continure having sex with her and continue with trying to be what she wants? 1/31/2012 What advice do you have for bringing our sexual relationship back online? 1/31/2012 It's been 10 months since discovery and we're doing well, is it too early to both recommit to our marriage? 1/31/2012 My AP continues to text me, I've told my spouse and neither of us have responded, what should we do? 1/31/2012 My huband has put constraints on when I can ask questions and he won't accept respoinsiblity for his actions, what can I do? 1/31/2012 My husband is a sex addict and now when I go out in public I'm so distrurbed by seeing women I think he might be attracted to I break down in tears, what can I do? 1/31/2012 How can I discuss my feelings with my mate and help him not be defensive? 1/31/2012 I'm the unfaithful spouse and my repair attempts sound like justification, denial or minimizing, what can I do to approach my mate in a more productive manner? 1/31/2012 Rick's Q & A Call on February 13 1/31/2012 Rick's Q & A Call on January 30 1/23/2012 Rebuilding Trust After An Affair 1/18/2012 My wife has little or no insight into what her affair did to me, is "getting it" necessary for reparing a marriage and is there hope that she will care about the hurt she caused me? 1/16/2012 My mate won't participate in the post EMS calls, what should I do? 1/16/2012 My wife is having intrusive thoughts about what I said to my AP when we're having sex, is there anythiing I can do to help the situation? 1/16/2012 How can I confront my husband without making him defensive? 1/16/2012 How can I help my mate with intrusive thoughts? 1/16/2012 My mate wants me to tell her why I had an affair and what she was doing wrong, how can I respond? 1/16/2012 Rick's Q & A Call on January 23 1/16/2012 Rick's Q & A Call on January 16 1/10/2012 Dealing with Infidelity: How to Get You Mate to Cooperate (Without Being Controlling) 12/29/2011 Surviving Infidelity: What Is Narcissism? 12/28/2011 My husband has a sexual addiction, yet he won't get help. We are going to a marriage counselor, but I'm afraid he'll relapse, any suggestions? 12/19/2011 Rick's Q & A Call on January 9 12/19/2011 My husband ended a 3 year affair and now 9 months later he claims he doesn't think about her, is that possible? 12/14/2011 Rick's Q & A Call on December 19 12/14/2011 How do I deal with intrusive thoughts when I'm trying to make love to my mate? I keep comaring myself to the other woman and thinking about what they did 12/05/2011 I'm separated from my husband at Christmas, his son and wife have sent me a list of what they'd like for Christmas, with the seperation how do I respond? 12/05/2011 I'm trying to process my own healing as well as trying to function as my mate's emotional caretaker any suggestions on what to do? 12/05/2011 It's recommended that we separate but my wife says if we separate she want a divorce, how do we compromise? 12/05/2011 What can I do to help my wife get rid of the visions of me and my affair partner? They haunt and torment her enough to drive her to drink, and she doesn't drink! 12/05/2011 Rick's Q & A Call on December 12 12/05/2011 Pages« first‹ previous…888990919293949596…next ›last »