Q&A Am I Being Too Nice?

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Seven months ago my wife had a mostly emotional affair. Kissing and hugging was the physical extent. The affair lasted six weeks. I was of course devastated and never saw it coming. I was fortunate, I believe, to be able to emphasize early on thanks to her being honest with her feelings and emotions. By the grace of God I was able to forgive and was ready for a fresh and new start with her shortly after D-Day. My wife was in extreme limerence and still struggles with contacting her AP, but is working hard to move forward and process through everything. I have been struggling because I am affectionate toward her, but she is not toward me. She has told me her feelings have changed for me and she wants them to change back, but she cannot force them. I understand and am willing to wait and be patient. The problem I'm having is I feel like she is questioning why she wants to stay married to me, but I was the betrayed one, so shouldn't I be the one questioning whether I will take her back and stay married after what she has done? Am I being too nice? Am I in a unique situation or have you seen this before?



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