Q&A How Do We Combat Triggers for Upcoming Events?

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I work for a non-profit where the AP and I worked together.  Once D-Day hit on 9/5/16 he cut all ties burning bridges on the way out.  He’s had no contact with me personally or the organization since.  My husband was friends with the AP, and they had worked on a project together (both as volunteers) for the organization.


Coming up is our annual retreat at our camp.  My husband and the AP had spent time at camp working on this project, and I had spent time with the AP there as well, not sexual.  My husband is having a difficult time with me going to camp as it brings on all sorts of triggers.  But as my primary job responsibility, it’s not something I can easily get out of.  I’ve been open and honest about information surrounding this event, but in the end it doesn’t really make it any easier.


There is another event in 2 weeks I was in charge of organizing.  Any after hours event is a trigger.  I’ve asked if he would like to attend the event in 2 weeks, but it’s not something he’s comfortable doing and I completely understand.  There was also a surprise trigger during the past week while we were trying to deal with the known trigger, also job related.


Is there any way to make it any easier?


I have agreed to look for a new job.  It’s evident the triggers are just too strong.



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