I am 3 months out from the third D-Day and currently struggling with the concept of forgiveness. I am tormented with intrusive thoughts including videos, images, and messages I’ve seen with his affair partners. I am also finding it difficult to overcome how quickly he engaged in the affairs and how long it took for him to consider my feelings. He is currently doing a great job at recovery and seems genuinely remorseful. I see the changes, but I am terrified that it will happen again at some point. I am fearful that we will never be able to get the love in our relationship back. I feel that I don’t know who I fell in love with and I know it hurts him that I don’t see him in the same way. I feel at peace with the idea of forgiving and walking away, but panic at the thought of staying. Is remaining in the relationship after infidelity simply unattainable for some people or is this something that we are all capable of getting over?