Handling Discovery

We call it “D-day” for a reason. These articles will help you understand the process of disclosure and how to keep the process safe.

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Video icon Creating Healing Spaces
Video icon Q&A How Do I Cope With the Resurgence of Past Traumas Triggered by Such Betrayal?
Video icon The Truth About Lying
Video icon Q&A Why Does My Husband Continue to Lie When I’ve Been a Safe Place for Him Since I Returned?
Video icon Regulating Our Stress Response During Recovery
Video icon Q&A What Do I Do with an Unfaithful Spouse Who Will Not Provide Me with Full Disclosure?
Video icon Manifestation of Shame Part 1: The Unfaithful
Video icon Understanding the Mind of the Unfaithful: Minimizing the Affair
Video icon Q&A If a Person Is Taking Medications and Has Gone Thru 6 Rounds of Chemo before Taking a Polygraph, Could This Give a False Reading?
Video icon Common Mistakes Made When Recovering from Infidelity
Text icon Hope For Healing Excerpt: How Does The Unfaithful Make Amends?
Video icon Q&A Does the Wayward Spouse Have a Right to Ask the Betrayed What Source They Are Using to Find Information about the Affair?
Video icon Q&A How Do I Communicate Love, Compassion, and Empathy during the Discovery Process or Questioning?
Text icon The Betrayed's Reaction: An Excerpt from Harboring Hope
Text icon Surviving Infidelity: 6 Things I Wish I'd Known
Video icon Q&A How Do I Show Empathy Towards My Wife after Her Revenge Affair When She Refuses to Give Full Disclosure?
Text icon My Spouse Had an Affair: What Should I Do Now?
Text icon Is Ambivalence Common When Healing from Infidelity?
Text icon How Can You Move Past Ambivalence After Infidelity?
Text icon Stuck? Three Methods to Get Moving in Infidelity Recovery
Text icon Discovery: Why Do I Want to Know?
Text icon Discovery: Processing the Details of the Affair
Video icon Q&A How Do I Create a Coherent Story If the Details from My Mate Are Always Changing?
Video icon Q&A How Does One Find a Reputable and Affordable Polygraph Test Provider?
Text icon Discovery: Part 4 - Goals for the Betrayed
Text icon Discovery: Part 3 - Guidelines for Discovery
Video icon Q&A How Do I Approach This Polygraph without Feeling like My Marriage Is on the Line?
Text icon Discovery: Part 2 - Advice For The Wayward Spouse
Text icon Discovery: Part 1 - How to Handle Discovery
Video icon Q&A Do You Think There Is an Appropriate Methodology of Trying to Recall Some of This Using Hypnosis?
Video icon Q&A How Do I Handle My Mate Weaponizing Information That I’m Sharing with Them?
Video icon Q&A What Can I Do, as the Betrayed, to Try and Get Closure?
Video icon Q&A How Can We Get Anywhere If a Calm Conversation Can’t Happen about His Recovery or Betrayals?
Video icon Q&A Any Advice on How, When & Where It’s Best to Share Our Story?
Video icon Q&A What Do I Do If I Don’t Believe My Mate Has Been Completely Honest with Their Full Disclosure?
Video icon Q&A Can I Truly Trust a Polygraph?
Video icon Q&A Why Can’t I Give My Spouse Full Disclosure?
Video icon Q&A What Is the Best Way to Discuss the Questions That Most Wayward Spouses Get from the Betrayed?
Video icon Q&A How Do We Handle Disclosure When My Infidelity Was So Long Ago and I Can’t Remember All the Details?
Video icon Q&A What If the Hurt Spouse Needs More Information than the Wayward Spouse Is Willing to Give?
Video icon Q&A How Do We Create a Shared View of Our Relationship When We Have No Valid Timelines to Reference?
Video icon Q&A How Should I Go About Trying to Get to Ground Zero?
Video icon Announcing NEW Infidelity Video Blog: Songs for the Soul
Text icon Social Shame: Four Ways to Stay In It
Text icon Social Shame: Surviving Infidelity Isn’t Enough
Video icon Q&A Is It Normal to Feel Calm After Disclosing the Truth?
Video icon Q&A How Can I Move Forward While Convinced That He Is Still Lying to Me?
Video icon Q&A Should I Keep Pushing Him to Talk and Give Me Answers?
Video icon Q&A When Is the Right Time for Confrontation and How Do I Tell Him I Know about the Affair?
Video icon Q&A How Do I Help Him Understand That I Need to Know about All His Emotional Affairs?