Handling Discovery

We call it “D-day” for a reason. These articles will help you understand the process of disclosure and how to keep the process safe.

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Video icon Q&A Will She Ever Tell the Truth Without Being Backed Into a Corner?
Video icon Mistakes Families Make After an Affair
Video icon Q&A How Do I Replace What I Feel With What I Know, if I Don’t Know What the Truth Is?
Video icon Q&A How Do I Get Past or Heal From the Hurtful Things My Husband Said About Me to His Affair Partners?
Video icon Q&A Would Viewing Surveillance Footage of My Husband’s Affair Be Helpful?
Video icon Q&A What Advice Do You Have for Polygraphs, Anxiety Induced False Positives, and Full Disclosure During Recovery?
Text icon Why This Hurts So Much...
Video icon Q&A Do I Have to Take a Polygraph?
Video icon Q&A How Can We Reconnect if I Don’t Know What Happened?
Video icon Q&A How Do I Respond When the Betrayed Ridicules, Shames, and Slanders Me for What I Have Done?
Video icon Really Hard Times Will Not Last
Video icon 2 Things You Must Understand About the Disclosure Process
Video icon A Toxic Mix: Gaslighting and Infidelity
Video icon Q&A How Do I Address Her Readiness to Engage With Someone So Despicable Versus Her Resistance to Reconnect Intimately With Me?
Video icon Creating Healing Spaces
Video icon Q&A How Do I Cope With the Resurgence of Past Traumas Triggered by Such Betrayal?
Video icon The Truth About Lying
Video icon Q&A Why Does My Husband Continue to Lie When I’ve Been a Safe Place for Him Since I Returned?
Video icon Regulating Our Stress Response During Recovery
Video icon Q&A What Do I Do with an Unfaithful Spouse Who Will Not Provide Me with Full Disclosure?
Video icon Manifestation of Shame Part 1: The Unfaithful
Video icon Q&A If a Person Is Taking Medications and Has Gone Thru 6 Rounds of Chemo before Taking a Polygraph, Could This Give a False Reading?
Video icon Common Mistakes Made When Recovering from Infidelity
Text icon Hope For Healing Excerpt: How Does The Unfaithful Make Amends?
Video icon Q&A Does the Wayward Spouse Have a Right to Ask the Betrayed What Source They Are Using to Find Information about the Affair?
Video icon Q&A How Do I Communicate Love, Compassion, and Empathy during the Discovery Process or Questioning?
Text icon The Betrayed's Reaction: An Excerpt from Harboring Hope
Text icon Surviving Infidelity: 6 Things I Wish I'd Known
Video icon Q&A How Do I Show Empathy Towards My Wife after Her Revenge Affair When She Refuses to Give Full Disclosure?
Text icon My Spouse Had an Affair: What Should I Do Now?
Text icon Is Ambivalence Common When Healing from Infidelity?
Text icon How Can You Move Past Ambivalence After Infidelity?
Text icon Stuck? Three Methods to Get Moving in Infidelity Recovery
Text icon Discovery: Why Do I Want to Know?
Text icon Discovery: Processing the Details of the Affair
Video icon Q&A How Do I Create a Coherent Story If the Details from My Mate Are Always Changing?
Video icon Q&A How Does One Find a Reputable and Affordable Polygraph Test Provider?
Text icon Discovery: Part 4 - Goals for the Betrayed
Text icon Discovery: Part 3 - Guidelines for Discovery
Video icon Q&A How Do I Approach This Polygraph without Feeling like My Marriage Is on the Line?
Text icon Discovery: Part 2 - Advice For The Wayward Spouse
Text icon Discovery: Part 1 - How to Handle Discovery
Video icon Q&A Do You Think There Is an Appropriate Methodology of Trying to Recall Some of This Using Hypnosis?
Video icon Q&A How Do I Handle My Mate Weaponizing Information That I’m Sharing with Them?
Video icon Q&A What Can I Do, as the Betrayed, to Try and Get Closure?
Video icon Q&A How Can We Get Anywhere If a Calm Conversation Can’t Happen about His Recovery or Betrayals?
Video icon Q&A Any Advice on How, When & Where It’s Best to Share Our Story?
Video icon Q&A What Do I Do If I Don’t Believe My Mate Has Been Completely Honest with Their Full Disclosure?
Video icon Q&A Can I Truly Trust a Polygraph?
Video icon Q&A Why Can’t I Give My Spouse Full Disclosure?