Safety in Recovery The hallmark of any healthy recovery is safety. Both spouses have to feel safe in order to rebuild a strong, new marriage from the ashes of the old one. Learn how to make your mate feel safe and why it is so important that you do. Must Reads more less Affair Recovery Timeline for Healing After Betrayal Infidelity Counseling: How Effective Is It? Pimping Tenderness & Grooming Behaviors How Could You? Part IV - Doublespeak and Distorted Comparisons How Long Does It Take to Recover From An Affair? Ending an Affair - Step One: Make the Decision Discovery: Part 1 - How to Handle Discovery Ending an Affair: Lock the Door Part 1 Why Couples Fail After an Affair | Part 1 - Not Knowing What Happened How Could You? 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Healing After An Affair Surviving Infidelity Part 1: What Do You Need to Know? 1087 Resources Type Title Posted Q&A Should My Mate Be Cautious of the Comparison Questions She Is Asking? 1/31/2020 Q&A Was I Wrong for Questioning Him or Is There a Better Way I Could’ve Approached This? 1/16/2020 Q&A What Does Transparency, Accountability, and External Controls Look like in Recovery? 1/16/2020 Q&A When Do I Know That It’s Time for Me to Leave? 1/16/2020 Q&A Why Wasn't My Husband Honest with Me? 1/03/2020 Q&A Can I Trust That the Affair Is Really Over? 1/03/2020 Q&A Do I Continue to Be Friends? 1/02/2020 Q&A How Do We Create Safety in the Workplace? 1/02/2020 Q&A How Do We Differentiate between What Secrets Are Safe to Keep and Which Should Be Shared? 12/19/2019 Q&A How Can We Create Safety During Military Deployment? 12/16/2019 Q&A How Can I Fix the Problem of Trickle Truth? 12/16/2019 Q&A What Does Consensual Sex Look like in Marriage? 12/05/2019 Q&A Do You Have Advice for Safely Reaching Full Disclosure without a Polygraph? 11/21/2019 Q&A How Do We Move Forward If My Mate Isn't Willing to Get Help? 11/21/2019 Q&A How Can We Move Forward in a Healthy and Safe Way? 11/21/2019 Q&A How Do I Push Forward in Recovery When I Feel That My Mate Isn't Trust Worthy? 11/14/2019 Q&A How Can I Feel Safe after My Mates Relapse? 11/14/2019 Q&A Should We Continue with the Course Work in Spite of Relapse? 11/14/2019 Q&A Can My Mate Ever Be Safe Again? 11/13/2019 Q&A Is This an Acceptable Behavior for the Recovery Process? 11/13/2019 Q&A How Do I Extend Grace to My Wayward Husband 11/13/2019 Are You Forgivable? Part 3: Stupid Apologies 11/13/2019 Are You Forgivable? Part 2: 7 Myths Undermining Forgiveness 11/06/2019 Q&A Why Can't My Mate Be Honest? 11/05/2019 Q&A How Can I Get the Safety I Need in Our Recovery? 11/05/2019 Q&A How Do I Handle a Relapse in the Middle of Recovery? 11/05/2019 Are You Forgivable? Part 1: Self Assessment 10/30/2019 Q&A What More Can We Do to Set Boundaries with Family Members? 10/23/2019 Q&A How Do I Protect Myself While Working Towards Healing? 10/23/2019 Q&A What Do I Do If My Wife Still Wants to Spend Time with Her Accomplice in Her Affair? 10/23/2019 Q&A At What Point Should We Get a Restraining Order for the Affair Partner? 10/16/2019 Q&A How Can I Be Vulnerable If My Mate Has Only Committed to One Year of Healing? 10/16/2019 Q&A How Can We Move Forward with This Lack of Trust? 10/02/2019 Q&A How Should I Handle My Husband's Lack of Transparency? 10/02/2019 Q&A How Do I Feel Safe through All of This? 9/26/2019 Q&A How Will I Know If It's Safe for My Spouse to Move Back in with Me? 9/26/2019 Q&A Do I Need to Have My Mate Move Out? 9/26/2019 Q&A How Do I Feel Safe about My Husband Having Female Friends at Work? 9/26/2019 Q&A What Applications and Filters Do You Recommend to Keep Us Safe? 9/18/2019 Q&A Am I Controlling My Spouse or Is This the Appropriate Way to Set Boundaries? 9/18/2019 Q&A How Do I Stay Safe When My Mate Is Still Ambivalent? 9/13/2019 Q&A How Do I Heal from the Intrusive Thoughts That Came as Result of Recording and Listening to My Mates Conversations with the Affair Partner? 9/13/2019 Q&A How Can We Create Safety and Follow-Through with Boundaries? 9/13/2019 Q&A What Do His Boundary Violations Mean? 9/13/2019 Q&A Can You Explain the Benefits of an In-House Separation? 9/13/2019 Q&A What Boundaries Are Appropriate in Recovery? 9/11/2019 Q&A How Can I Address the Anger and Defensiveness Coming from the Wayward Spouse? 9/04/2019 Q&A Would This Level of Detail Hurt Our Recovery Process? 8/28/2019 Q&A How Do We Move Forward When the Wayward Spouse Continues to Contact the Affair Partner? 8/28/2019 Q&A Should We Wait for the Limerence to Subside before Seeking More Restoration? 8/28/2019 Pages« first‹ previous123456789…next ›last »