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After a betrayal, your mind goes in 90 million directions all at once and you may not even know where to begin. Use the categories in the Recovery Library to discover what areas of recovery resonate with your struggle and find the specific guidance you need.

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Type	Title	Posted
	Q&A Will the Betrayed’s Irritability Ever Go Away?	1/18/2022
	Q&A What Should We Tell the Kids If They Ask Why Dad Is Living in the Basement?	1/18/2022
	Q&A How Can My Wife Believe That She Fulfilled Her Fantasy If She Also Says That’s Not Who She Truly Is?	1/18/2022
	Q&A Is This Finally Enough to Divorce and End Recovery Work?	1/18/2022
	Q&A What Type of Recovery Program Does My Husband Need?	1/18/2022
	Q&A How Can I Get My Emotionally Unavailable Husband to Walk toward the Storm Instead of Away?	1/18/2022
	Q&A What Do I Do When the Betrayed Spouse Shuts Me Out and Doesn’t Want to Talk about His Pain, Unless Forced?	1/18/2022
	Q&A Are My Expectations Too High?	12/17/2021
	Q&A What Do We Do When the Affair Partner Refuses to Cooperate about the Child?	12/17/2021
	Q&A How Can We Set Boundaries If They Keep Being Disregarded and Violated?	12/17/2021
	Q&A Should I Change Churches or Should I Just Get Over It since It Was All in His Fantasies?	12/17/2021
	Q&A What Should I Do With the Saved Messages between My Husband and His Affair Partners?	12/17/2021
	Q&A Why Is He Okay as Long as I Don’t Talk about It? How Can We Get past This If He’s Unwilling to Answer Questions?	12/17/2021
	Q&A How Can I Help My Husband Understand the Importance of Knowing the ‘Why’ and Also How to Can I Help Him See That It’s Not an Excuse or Blaming Anything?	12/17/2021
	Q&A Should We Abstain from Sex at This Point in Our Recovery?	12/17/2021
	Q&A At What Point Is It Unhealthy to Be Avoiding Events Because the Affair Partner May Go or Avoiding Places Because They Once Went There Together?	12/17/2021
	Social Shame: Four Ways to Stay In It	12/13/2021
	Social Shame: Surviving Infidelity Isn’t Enough	12/08/2021
	Social Shame: Have You Been Dishonored?	12/01/2021
	Social Shame: Understanding the Paralysis of it	11/24/2021
	Q&A Why Is My Wayward Spouse Playing the Victim in Our Relationship?	11/19/2021
	Q&A Can His Expressed Feelings of Love Be True When He Was Deceiving and Betraying Me?	11/19/2021
	Q&A How Much Should I Allow My Hurt Spouse to Vent and Control Conversations?	11/19/2021
	Q&A What Can I Ask My Spouse to Do That Also Requires the Same Amount of Effort in the Process of Recovery?	11/19/2021
	The Use and Abuse of the Polygraph	11/10/2021
	Q&A Should My Unfaithful Spouse Make a Symbolic Sacrifice to Help My Healing?	11/04/2021
	Q&A What Type of Dilemma Am I In?	11/04/2021
	Q&A How Do I Help My Betrayed Wife with Her Depression That Has Escalated Dramatically since Discovery?	11/04/2021
	Why Did They Cheat? Part 4: The Problem With Addictions	11/03/2021
	Why Did They Cheat? Part 3: Do They Have an Addiction?	10/27/2021
	Why Did They Cheat? Part 2: Entrapped or Enchanted	10/20/2021
	Why Did They Cheat? Part 1:The Role of Oxytocin	10/13/2021
	Q&A Is He Sincere?	10/07/2021
	Q&A What Practical Steps Can I Take To Help Me Overcome the Overwhelming Moments in Recovery?	10/07/2021
	Q&A How Do I Get My Husband to Not Only Acknowledge the Humiliation upon Our Family and Me, but Also to Fix the Amount of Humiliation He’s Placed on Our Family to Our Town?	10/07/2021
	Q&A How Do I Deal With These Graphics Thoughts?	10/07/2021
	Q&A Is It Common for the Wayward Spouse to Go Back to the Affair Partner?	10/07/2021
	Q&A Did I Do the Right Thing by Sharing My Trigger and How Do I Handle This Situation in the Future?	10/07/2021
	Q&A Should I Continue EMS Online on My Own?	10/07/2021
	Q&A When Does Trauma Turn Into PTSD and Grief Turn Into Depression?	10/07/2021
	Q&A How Can We Make Progress and How Can I Trust Him?	10/07/2021
	Q&A Why Is My Husband Deleting Messages to His Mother before I See Them?	10/07/2021
	Embracing Intimacy After Infidelity Part 2: The Art of Cherishing	9/15/2021
	Q&A Is It Appropriate to Try Separating While Also Helping the Betrayed Spouse Heal?	9/08/2021
	Q&A What Do I Do about a Sex Tape That My Spouse Made with the Affair Partner?	9/08/2021
	Q&A How Do I Move On When I Feel like He’s Lying about What Really Happened?	9/08/2021
	Q&A What Progressional Steps Are Most Helpful in Recovery from Pornography Addiction and Extramarital Affairs?	9/08/2021
	Q&A Should I do EMDR or Harboring Hope First?	9/08/2021
	Q&A What Is the Role of Dopamine in Marital Sex?	9/08/2021
	Q&A Can You Provide Clarification on Not Asking Relational Comparison Questions?	9/08/2021