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Type	Title	Posted
	Understanding the Phases of Recovery: Is this normal?	10/12/2026
	Infidelity + Life: When the Affair Isn’t Your Only Crisis	9/28/2026
	Reclaiming Your Power Through Intervention	9/16/2026
	How to Forgive When You Can't Forget	9/14/2026
	His Addiction, Her Affair: Healing When Both Are Betrayed	8/31/2026

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Type	Title	Posted
	Q&A Is Looking at Porn as Damaging as Having an Affair?	9/29/2026
	Q&A What Advice Do You Have for Celebrating Our Anniversary During Recovery?	9/29/2026
	Q&A How Do We Respond to Intrusive Thoughts Without Reinforcing Them?	9/29/2026
	Q&A How Do I Respond to Old Urges & Pathways Without Becoming Overly Vigilant?	9/29/2026
	Q&A How Can I Support My Betrayed Spouse?	9/29/2026

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4630 Resources

Type	Title	Posted
	Q&A Is It Strange for the Unfaithful to Have Depression?	8/03/2022
	Q&A Is This a Healthy Way to Process My Anger?	8/03/2022
	Q&A How Do I Deal With My Repulsion by the Idea of Sex Post Betrayal?	8/03/2022
	Q&A How Long Are You Suppose to Wait for Unfaithful to Take Responsibility and Have Empathy?	8/03/2022
	Q&A Should I Get Breast Implants to Please My Husband?	8/03/2022
	Q&A How Do I Forgive Myself for Marrying Someone While Choosing to Essentially Re-Marry Him?	8/03/2022
	Life After Divorce: How the Unfaithful Sees It	8/03/2022
	Q&A How Do I Keep My Boundaries Strong in a Place of Leadership?	7/07/2022
	Forgiveness: A Letter to My Younger Self	7/06/2022
	Q&A Are My Expectations to High? What Should He Be Doing to Reinforce That Love and Value of Me?	7/01/2022
	Q&A Am I Just Playing the Victim to Reduce My Guilt?	7/01/2022
	Q&A What Are the Signs I Should Run and Not Bother Wasting My Time or Emotions on Trying to Make My Marriage Work?	7/01/2022
	Why Couples Fail After an Affair \| Part 4 - Not Grieving the Loss	6/15/2022
	Q&A How Do My Wife and I Avoid Pretending Normal and Actually Tackle the Issue of Infidelity?	6/14/2022
	Q&A How Can I Be Comfortable Being Intimate Again?	6/14/2022
	Q&A Can I Truly Trust a Polygraph?	6/14/2022
	Q&A Why Does My Mate Still Want Me to Obey Him after His Affair?	6/14/2022
	Q&A How Do We Give This a Shot If We Don’t Reengage on Some Level?	6/14/2022
	Q&A Could It Be Limerance When the Affair Partner Is an Old Flame?	6/14/2022
	Q&A How Do I Respond to the Betrayed’s Triggers When It’s Affecting My Mental Health Now?	6/14/2022
	Q&A Am I Depriving Myself of True Healing in the Long Term If We Are Using This Method to Cope?	6/14/2022
	Why Couples Fail After an Affair \| Part 3 - Hiding in Denial	6/08/2022
	Why Couples Fail After an Affair \| Part 2 - Not Getting It	6/01/2022
	Q&A How Do You Know If You Are Grieving or If You Are Wallowing?	5/24/2022
	Q&A How Do I Handle Knowing the ‘Who’ Matters More to Me than the ‘What’?	5/24/2022
	Q&A When Will the Constant Feeling That Another Betrayal Is Right around the Corner Fade?	5/24/2022
	Q&A How Can I Channel My Own Genuine Positivity and Stop Being Concerned or Insulted by His Behaviors or Attitudes?	5/24/2022
	Q&A Where Does a Failed Polygraph Leave Us in Regards to a Timeline in Recovery?	5/24/2022
	Q&A What Do I Do If My Spouse Works with Their Affair Partner?	5/24/2022
	Q&A Can You Help Us Understand Our Love Language Differences?	5/24/2022
	Q&A How Do You Make Your Partner Feel Understood, Trusted, like They Matter, and That It’s Ok to Make Mistakes, Without Enabling Bad Behavior?	5/24/2022
	Q&A Is It Possible There Is a 7th Type of Affair?	5/24/2022
	Are You Vulnerable to an Affair? Part III: Individual Vulnerability	5/18/2022
	Are You Vulnerable to an Affair? Part II: Marital Vulnerability	5/18/2022
	Are You Vulnerable to an Affair?	5/18/2022
	Tony & Debbie Mentor Video	5/01/2022
	Limerence: Infatuation and How It Works	4/27/2022
	Q&A How Do I Continue Supporting Her While Taking Care of My Heart and Mental Health?	4/20/2022
	Q&A Why Can’t I Give My Spouse Full Disclosure?	4/20/2022
	Q&A Is It OK for the Wayward Spouse to Keep in Touch with Affair Partners from the past That Happened Years before Us?	4/20/2022
	Q&A What Is the Best Way to Discuss the Questions That Most Wayward Spouses Get from the Betrayed?	4/20/2022
	Q&A How Do I Let Myself Be Happy Again?	4/08/2022
	Q&A How Do We Handle Defensiveness?	4/08/2022
	Q&A How Do I Move Forward Knowing That He Already Has The Mindset That This Could Happen Again?	4/08/2022
	Q&A How Can I Convince Her to Engage More in the Group Therapy?	4/08/2022
	Q&A How Could He Go from One Affair to Another?	4/08/2022
	Q&A What Can I Do to Support Him but Also Be Heard?	4/06/2022
	Q&A How Do I Get Over This Betrayal?	4/06/2022
	Q&A How Can I Ever Get Over His Believing He Loved The Affair Partner?	4/06/2022
	Q&A How Can I Communicate So That He Does Not Feel Condemned?	4/06/2022