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Type	Title	Posted
	Understanding the Phases of Recovery: Is this normal?	10/12/2026
	Infidelity + Life: When the Affair Isn’t Your Only Crisis	9/28/2026
	Reclaiming Your Power Through Intervention	9/16/2026
	How to Forgive When You Can't Forget	9/14/2026
	His Addiction, Her Affair: Healing When Both Are Betrayed	8/31/2026

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Type	Title	Posted
	Q&A Is Looking at Porn as Damaging as Having an Affair?	9/29/2026
	Q&A What Advice Do You Have for Celebrating Our Anniversary During Recovery?	9/29/2026
	Q&A How Do We Respond to Intrusive Thoughts Without Reinforcing Them?	9/29/2026
	Q&A How Do I Respond to Old Urges & Pathways Without Becoming Overly Vigilant?	9/29/2026
	Q&A How Can I Support My Betrayed Spouse?	9/29/2026

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4630 Resources

Type	Title	Posted
	Q&A Why Is He Okay as Long as I Don’t Talk about It? How Can We Get past This If He’s Unwilling to Answer Questions?	12/17/2021
	Q&A How Can I Help My Husband Understand the Importance of Knowing the ‘Why’ and Also How to Can I Help Him See That It’s Not an Excuse or Blaming Anything?	12/17/2021
	Q&A Should We Abstain from Sex at This Point in Our Recovery?	12/17/2021
	Q&A At What Point Is It Unhealthy to Be Avoiding Events Because the Affair Partner May Go or Avoiding Places Because They Once Went There Together?	12/17/2021
	Social Shame: Four Ways to Stay In It	12/13/2021
	Social Shame: Surviving Infidelity Isn’t Enough	12/08/2021
	Social Shame: Have You Been Dishonored?	12/01/2021
	Social Shame: Understanding the Paralysis of it	11/24/2021
	Q&A Why Is My Wayward Spouse Playing the Victim in Our Relationship?	11/19/2021
	Q&A Can His Expressed Feelings of Love Be True When He Was Deceiving and Betraying Me?	11/19/2021
	Q&A How Much Should I Allow My Hurt Spouse to Vent and Control Conversations?	11/19/2021
	Q&A What Can I Ask My Spouse to Do That Also Requires the Same Amount of Effort in the Process of Recovery?	11/19/2021
	The Use and Abuse of the Polygraph	11/10/2021
	Q&A Should My Unfaithful Spouse Make a Symbolic Sacrifice to Help My Healing?	11/04/2021
	Q&A What Type of Dilemma Am I In?	11/04/2021
	Q&A How Do I Help My Betrayed Wife with Her Depression That Has Escalated Dramatically since Discovery?	11/04/2021
	Why Did They Cheat? Part 4: The Problem With Addictions	11/03/2021
	Why Did They Cheat? Part 3: Do They Have an Addiction?	10/27/2021
	Why Did They Cheat? Part 2: Entrapped or Enchanted	10/20/2021
	Why Did They Cheat? Part 1:The Role of Oxytocin	10/13/2021
	Q&A Is He Sincere?	10/07/2021
	Q&A What Practical Steps Can I Take To Help Me Overcome the Overwhelming Moments in Recovery?	10/07/2021
	Q&A How Do I Get My Husband to Not Only Acknowledge the Humiliation upon Our Family and Me, but Also to Fix the Amount of Humiliation He’s Placed on Our Family to Our Town?	10/07/2021
	Q&A How Do I Deal With These Graphics Thoughts?	10/07/2021
	Q&A Is It Common for the Wayward Spouse to Go Back to the Affair Partner?	10/07/2021
	Q&A Did I Do the Right Thing by Sharing My Trigger and How Do I Handle This Situation in the Future?	10/07/2021
	Q&A Should I Continue EMS Online on My Own?	10/07/2021
	Q&A When Does Trauma Turn Into PTSD and Grief Turn Into Depression?	10/07/2021
	Q&A How Can We Make Progress and How Can I Trust Him?	10/07/2021
	Q&A Why Is My Husband Deleting Messages to His Mother before I See Them?	10/07/2021
	Embracing Intimacy After Infidelity Part 2: The Art of Cherishing	9/15/2021
	Q&A Is It Appropriate to Try Separating While Also Helping the Betrayed Spouse Heal?	9/08/2021
	Q&A What Do I Do about a Sex Tape That My Spouse Made with the Affair Partner?	9/08/2021
	Q&A How Do I Move On When I Feel like He’s Lying about What Really Happened?	9/08/2021
	Q&A What Progressional Steps Are Most Helpful in Recovery from Pornography Addiction and Extramarital Affairs?	9/08/2021
	Q&A Should I do EMDR or Harboring Hope First?	9/08/2021
	Q&A What Is the Role of Dopamine in Marital Sex?	9/08/2021
	Q&A Can You Provide Clarification on Not Asking Relational Comparison Questions?	9/08/2021
	Mastering Marriage Part 2: Practicing the Process of Marriage and Recovery	8/25/2021
	Mastering Marriage Part 1: Interpreting Plateaus in Marriage and Recovery	8/18/2021
	Q&A Where Do I Go After EMS Online?	8/17/2021
	Q&A Should I Let Him Go?	8/17/2021
	Q&A How Could He Go from Begging Me to Stay to This?	8/17/2021
	Q&A Is It Possible That the Shame Is Creating a Barrier to Empathy?	8/17/2021
	Q&A Why Does This Hurt Me?	8/17/2021
	Q&A My Husband Is Still Pursuing His Affair Partner after 13 Months and Is Refusing Any Work. Is There Hope?	8/17/2021
	Q&A How Do I Handle This Conflict between What He’s Saying and What He’s Doing?	8/17/2021
	Q&A How Do I Deal With This When I Cannot Reasonably Ask Her to Quit Working nor Can I Check In Frequently to Make Sure It's Not Happening Again?	8/17/2021
	Q&A How Do I Handle Other Counselor’s ‘Okaying’ My Husband’s Continuation of His Rock-Concert Gigs?	8/17/2021
	Q&A Should I Tell the Affair Partner’s Wife about the Affair?	8/17/2021