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Healing After An Affair Healing After an Affair: How do I Address Unmanageability? 1042 Resources Type Title Posted Q&A How Do I Emotionally Connect with Someone Who Treats Me This Way? 3/10/2022 Q&A How Long Should I Accept and Validate His Exaggerated Reactions as a Result of My Previously Reckless Behaviors? 2/17/2022 Q&A Do You Agree It’s Necessary to Re-Establish No Contact? 2/17/2022 Q&A Should a Wayward Spouse Be Allowed to Have Friends of the Opposite Gender? 2/17/2022 Q&A How Can We Set Boundaries If They Keep Being Disregarded and Violated? 12/17/2021 Q&A How Much Should I Allow My Hurt Spouse to Vent and Control Conversations? 11/19/2021 Q&A How Do I Deal With This When I Cannot Reasonably Ask Her to Quit Working nor Can I Check In Frequently to Make Sure It's Not Happening Again? 8/17/2021 Q&A How Do I Handle Other Counselor’s ‘Okaying’ My Husband’s Continuation of His Rock-Concert Gigs? 8/17/2021 Q&A Should I Tell the Affair Partner’s Wife about the Affair? 8/17/2021 Q&A How Do My Spouse and I Get On the Same Level When It Comes to Appropriate Communication to His Affair Partner about Their Daughter? 8/02/2021 Q&A Is Location-Sharing and Access to Phones Recommended? 7/13/2021 Q&A How Can I Stop the Feeling That I Constantly Need to Check on My Wayward Spouse for Safety? 7/13/2021 Q&A How Best Do I Ask for This Information So That He Understands the Level of Transparency I Need to Feel Safe? 7/13/2021 Q&A How Do I Deal With the Physical Distance between Me and My Husband during Recovery? 7/13/2021 Q&A When My Mate Floods, Why Do I Get Distressed In Turn? 7/08/2021 Q&A What Are the Best Boundaries to Make When My Husband and I Are Having a Discussion about My Healing and He Starts to Get Really Angry? 6/16/2021 Q&A Should I Be Considering Any Restrictions on Her Access to Our Children If She Continues to Act Out? 6/16/2021 Q&A How Do I Create a Safe Boundary for Myself While Showing Him Grace and Not Reject His Desire to Open up to Me and Reconnect? 6/16/2021 Q&A Are There Any Tips on How to Handle Someone Who Is Not Displaying Remorse, Is Full Of Anger and Pain, And Deeply Depressed? 6/16/2021 Q&A I Want Proof That His Affair Partner Has Been Contacted and Told That It Is 100% Over and He Will Never Contact Her Again. How Do I Go About This? 6/16/2021 Q&A How Do I Love Her through Her Controlling Issues While Still Maintaining My Sanity? 5/25/2021 Q&A Is It Wrong to Expect My Husband to Stop Contact with an Affair Partner Who Is Close to the Family and My Best Friend? 5/12/2021 Q&A What Are Your Thoughts about a Post Infidelity Contract? 4/29/2021 Q&A How on Earth Do I Enforce Boundaries during This Time without Pushing Her Back to the Affair Partner? 4/29/2021 Q&A How Do I Cast Down My Thoughts of Beating Up My Wife’s Affair Partner? 4/29/2021 Q&A Is It Better to Ignore Him When He Is Trying to Reach Out and Connect or Should I Respond in Kind to Try to Maintain the Peace? 4/29/2021 Q&A How Does the Addition of Domestic Violence Influence Affair Recovery? 4/29/2021 Q&A Is He ‘Cured’ and Am I Now Safe? 4/13/2021 Travel Plan: How to Create One and Why They're Worthwhile 3/31/2021 Q&A How Do I Balance Guarding My Heart with Building Intimacy in EMS Online When My Mate Is Still Engaging His Affair Partner? 3/25/2021 Q&A How Do We Safely and Respectfully Navigate Reconciliation, and Re-Integration to the Home, While Separated? 3/22/2021 Q&A What Does the Betrayed Spouse Do When the Betrayer Just Won’t End the Affair and Shows Signs of Limerence? 3/09/2021 Q&A Is It Alright for Me Not to Confront My Husband about Breaching the Contract? 3/09/2021 Q&A What More Can I Do to Become Safe for Her and Rebuild Our Relationship? 2/11/2021 Q&A Am I Wrong to Demand Him to Quit His Job for My Own Healing? 2/11/2021 Q&A How Can I Remain Supportive and Loving While Also Protecting Myself? 1/28/2021 Q&A Am I Wrong for Wanting to Know My Husband's Yellow-Light Behaviors? 1/25/2021 Q&A How Can I Get My Husband to Understand the Importance of Boundaries? 1/20/2021 Q&A Is It Appropriate to Abstain from Sex until Safety and Emotional Intimacy Have Been Established? 1/20/2021 Q&A How Can I Get My Wife to Stop Seeing Her Affair Partner? 1/14/2021 Q&A How Can I Help My Wife Feel Safe Again? 1/14/2021 Q&A How Do I Deal with Constant Relapse? 1/14/2021 Q&A Should I Even Consider Staying or Working on the Marriage? 1/07/2021 Q&A Should He Leave His Job? 11/18/2020 Q&A How Do I Discern If or When It's Safe to Trust Him Again? 11/12/2020 Q&A What Should I Do as the Wayward Spouse When My Spouse Has a Breakdown? 11/12/2020 Q&A How Do We Safely Co-Parent with the Affair Partner When a Child Is Born as a Result of the Affair? 11/12/2020 Q&A How Does One Determine What Not to Share with Their Spouse While Remaining Open and Honest? 10/22/2020 Q&A Am I Wrong to Ask Her to Stop Social Media Use? 10/22/2020 Q&A What Does Moving Forward a Year Later Look Like? 10/22/2020 Pages« first‹ previous123456789…next ›last »