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Part I: Why We Commit Betrayal With Infidelity The Power of Small Groups Coping with Infidelity: The 2 Stages of Pain Healing After an Affair: How do I Address Unmanageability? 1091 Resources Type Title Posted Betrayal Trauma: Tips for Talking with Your Spouse 5/22/2024 Signs There Could Be Abusive Behaviors in Your Relationship 5/08/2024 Q&A How Do I Know When My Husband is Safe Again? 5/07/2024 Q&A How Do I Do Everything Right at Every Moment for My Wife? 4/25/2024 Q&A Should My Husband Keep His Mother in His Life Given That She Actively Facilitated and Supported His Actions? 4/25/2024 The Affair Causing Habit 4/17/2024 Psychological Abuse Within Infidelity 3/20/2024 Q&A How Do I Tell My Unfaithful Spouse I Need Access to His Devices to Feel Safe? 1/09/2024 Q&A How Do I Deal With My Husband’s Anger? 1/09/2024 Q&A What Is the Best Way to Keep Boundaries in a Situation Where the Affair Happens in a Tight Knit Community? 11/28/2023 Q&A How Do I Communicate Love, Compassion, and Empathy during the Discovery Process or Questioning? 11/28/2023 Q&A How Do I Create Safety for Myself with an Addict That Is Not Seeking Out Help for Himself? 10/23/2023 Q&A Are the Requests I’m Making to Feel Safe Unreasonable? 10/23/2023 Q&A Is It Reasonable for Me to Feel Unsafe When My Wife Is around the Affair Partner without Me? 10/23/2023 Surviving Infidelity: 6 Things I Wish I'd Known 10/11/2023 Q&A Is Minimal Contact the Right Thing to Do at This Moment? 9/29/2023 Q&A Do I Have the Right to Know What My Spouse Is Doing to Monitor Me? 9/12/2023 Q&A What Is the Best Way to Set Boundaries in the Workplace? 8/15/2023 Q&A Are the Boundaries My Mate Has Placed on Our Conversations a Red Flag in Recovery? 8/15/2023 Discovery: Why Do I Want to Know? 6/14/2023 Discovery: Processing the Details of the Affair 6/07/2023 Q&A Why Do I Still Respond Physically like I Am Lying When I’m Telling the Truth? 5/19/2023 Q&A Are Any Lasting Feelings for the Affair Partner Permitted? 5/19/2023 Q&A If There Is a Future for Our Marriage, Would You See the Journey to Be Any Different than Normal? 5/19/2023 Q&A Is It Necessary for Him to Be Proactive or Should I Be Happy He’s Doing What I Ask of Him? 4/12/2023 Discovery: Part 3 - Guidelines for Discovery 3/22/2023 Q&A How Do I Handle My Spouse’s Siblings? 3/17/2023 Discovery: Part 2 - Advice For The Wayward Spouse 3/15/2023 Q&A What Action Do You Recommend If My Mates Behavior Doesn’t Change? 3/02/2023 Q&A How Do I Handle My Mate Weaponizing Information That I’m Sharing with Them? 1/11/2023 Q&A Are My Boundaries for My Spouse Unreasonable? 1/11/2023 Q&A How Can We Get Anywhere If a Calm Conversation Can’t Happen about His Recovery or Betrayals? 12/06/2022 Q&A How Can My Spouse Work with the Affair Partner and Still Be Okay? 12/06/2022 Q&A Any Advice on How, When & Where It’s Best to Share Our Story? 11/03/2022 Q&A Am I Struggling Because I Still Feel Unsafe in Recovery? 10/13/2022 Q&A Is This an Appropriate Deal-Breaker? 8/26/2022 Q&A How Do I Keep My Boundaries Strong in a Place of Leadership? 7/07/2022 Q&A What Are the Signs I Should Run and Not Bother Wasting My Time or Emotions on Trying to Make My Marriage Work? 7/01/2022 Why Couples Fail After an Affair | Part 4 - Not Grieving the Loss 6/15/2022 Q&A How Do I Respond to the Betrayed’s Triggers When It’s Affecting My Mental Health Now? 6/14/2022 Q&A What Do I Do If My Spouse Works with Their Affair Partner? 5/24/2022 Q&A How Do You Make Your Partner Feel Understood, Trusted, like They Matter, and That It’s Ok to Make Mistakes, Without Enabling Bad Behavior? 5/24/2022 Are You Vulnerable to an Affair? Part II: Marital Vulnerability 5/18/2022 Q&A How Do I Continue Supporting Her While Taking Care of My Heart and Mental Health? 4/20/2022 Q&A Is It OK for the Wayward Spouse to Keep in Touch with Affair Partners from the past That Happened Years before Us? 4/20/2022 Q&A How Do I Move Forward Knowing That He Already Has The Mindset That This Could Happen Again? 4/08/2022 Q&A How Do We Move Forward after Several Relapses? 4/06/2022 Q&A How Should I Handle My Spouse Threatening to Harm Me? 3/10/2022 Q&A How Should I as a Wayward Spouse Approach My Spouse’s Continual Desire for Reassurance? 3/10/2022 Q&A How Do I Emotionally Connect with Someone Who Treats Me This Way? 3/10/2022 Pages« first‹ previous123456789…next ›last »
