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Type	Title	Posted
	Understanding the Phases of Recovery: Is this normal?	10/12/2026
	Infidelity + Life: When the Affair Isn’t Your Only Crisis	9/28/2026
	Reclaiming Your Power Through Intervention	9/16/2026
	How to Forgive When You Can't Forget	9/14/2026
	His Addiction, Her Affair: Healing When Both Are Betrayed	8/31/2026

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	Q&A Is Looking at Porn as Damaging as Having an Affair?	9/29/2026
	Q&A What Advice Do You Have for Celebrating Our Anniversary During Recovery?	9/29/2026
	Q&A How Do We Respond to Intrusive Thoughts Without Reinforcing Them?	9/29/2026
	Q&A How Do I Respond to Old Urges & Pathways Without Becoming Overly Vigilant?	9/29/2026
	Q&A How Can I Support My Betrayed Spouse?	9/29/2026

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Type	Title	Posted
	Q&A How Do We Handle Disclosure When My Infidelity Was So Long Ago and I Can’t Remember All the Details?	4/06/2022
	Q&A As a Betrayed Husband Is It Unrealistic to Want My Wife to Pursue Me Physically?	4/06/2022
	Q&A What If the Hurt Spouse Needs More Information than the Wayward Spouse Is Willing to Give?	4/06/2022
	Q&A How Do I Get past the Uncontrollable Fear of This Happening Again or That It Is Still Happening?	4/06/2022
	Q&A Can You Please Give Me a Detailed Outline of What a Structured Separation Is and How to Implement It?	4/06/2022
	Q&A How Do You Heal the Relationship with the Betrayed’s Extended Family?	4/06/2022
	Q&A How Do We Continue in This Process When Only One of Us Is Committed?	4/06/2022
	Q&A How Do We Move Forward after Several Relapses?	4/06/2022
	Q&A How Much Harder Will Our Recovery Be in This Situation?	3/25/2022
	Q&A How Can I Put In the Effort Needed on My End for Intimacy without Getting the Same Failed Result?	3/25/2022
	What Is A Forgiveness Letter?	3/16/2022
	Q&A How Can I Trust Him Again?	3/10/2022
	Q&A If My Spouse Felt So Much Guilt and Shame the First Time, Why Did They Do It Again?	3/10/2022
	Q&A How Should I Handle My Spouse Threatening to Harm Me?	3/10/2022
	Q&A How Was He Able to Do a 180 Turn on Discovery?	3/10/2022
	Q&A How Should I as a Wayward Spouse Approach My Spouse’s Continual Desire for Reassurance?	3/10/2022
	Q&A How Do We Create a Shared View of Our Relationship When We Have No Valid Timelines to Reference?	3/10/2022
	Q&A Why Was It Easy for Him to Be Nice to Everyone but Me, His Wife?	3/10/2022
	Q&A How Do I Emotionally Connect with Someone Who Treats Me This Way?	3/10/2022
	Q&A How Long Does It Take for Desire for My Mate to Return after Severing Ties with My Affair Partners?	3/10/2022
	Q&A How Long Should I Accept and Validate His Exaggerated Reactions as a Result of My Previously Reckless Behaviors?	2/17/2022
	Q&A Do You Agree It’s Necessary to Re-Establish No Contact?	2/17/2022
	Q&A Why Don’t I Respect My Husband?	2/17/2022
	Q&A How Should I Go About Trying to Get to Ground Zero?	2/17/2022
	Q&A How Do I Get past the Affair Partner Continually Sending Me Photos and Descriptive Dialog?	2/17/2022
	Q&A What Do I Do When My Partner Is in Denial about His Infidelity?	2/17/2022
	Q&A Should a Wayward Spouse Be Allowed to Have Friends of the Opposite Gender?	2/17/2022
	Q&A How do I Heal?	2/17/2022
	Q&A Is He Just Not Interested in Me or Did He Magically Figure Out How to Treat a Woman?	2/17/2022
	Q&A When an Intrusive Thought Occurs, How Do I Know the Difference between Suppressing and Ignoring That Thought versus Not Giving It Any Airtime, Capturing It, and Redirecting My Thinking to Something Else?	2/02/2022
	Q&A Am I Being Closed Minded?	2/02/2022
	Q&A How Should I Deal With Characteristics That I Do Not Possess, Yet Seem to Have Been Sought after by My Spouse in the Affair Partners?	2/02/2022
	Q&A What Do I Do to Protect My, and My Children’s, Heart?	2/02/2022
	Q&A How Can I Get To a More Balanced Psyche?	2/02/2022
	Q&A Is It Wrong to Feel a Sense of a Sexual Revolution, after His Affair?	2/02/2022
	Announcing NEW Infidelity Video Blog: Songs for the Soul	1/26/2022
	Q&A What Do We Do When We Both Cheated, If My Betrayal Was ‘Worse’ than His?	1/18/2022
	Q&A Am I Choosing Closeness over Intimacy When I Don’t Let My Mate Know About Intrusive Thoughts When We Are Lovemaking?	1/18/2022
	Q&A Will the Betrayed’s Irritability Ever Go Away?	1/18/2022
	Q&A What Should We Tell the Kids If They Ask Why Dad Is Living in the Basement?	1/18/2022
	Q&A How Can My Wife Believe That She Fulfilled Her Fantasy If She Also Says That’s Not Who She Truly Is?	1/18/2022
	Q&A Is This Finally Enough to Divorce and End Recovery Work?	1/18/2022
	Q&A What Type of Recovery Program Does My Husband Need?	1/18/2022
	Q&A How Can I Get My Emotionally Unavailable Husband to Walk toward the Storm Instead of Away?	1/18/2022
	Q&A What Do I Do When the Betrayed Spouse Shuts Me Out and Doesn’t Want to Talk about His Pain, Unless Forced?	1/18/2022
	Q&A Are My Expectations Too High?	12/17/2021
	Q&A What Do We Do When the Affair Partner Refuses to Cooperate about the Child?	12/17/2021
	Q&A How Can We Set Boundaries If They Keep Being Disregarded and Violated?	12/17/2021
	Q&A Should I Change Churches or Should I Just Get Over It since It Was All in His Fantasies?	12/17/2021
	Q&A What Should I Do With the Saved Messages between My Husband and His Affair Partners?	12/17/2021