Handling Discovery
We call it “D-day” for a reason. These articles will help you understand the process of disclosure and how to keep the process safe.
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Video Q&A When Is It Appropriate to Tell Adult Children about Their Mother's Affair? 3/22/2021
Video Q&A Is His Inability to Recall Details of the Affair Normal? 3/04/2021
Video Q&A Should I Ask about All the Media and Locations They Shared? 3/04/2021
Video Q&A How I Can Move Forward and Get past the Feeling That I Don’t Have the Full Story? 2/23/2021
Video Q&A When Will I Stop Asking Questions? 1/28/2021
Video Q&A How Do I Know What Is Too Much Information? 1/28/2021
Video Q&A Can I Trust That He Is Being Honest? 1/20/2021
Video Q&A What Should I Do with the Evidence? 1/20/2021
Video Q&A Can We Heal Even When He Still Can’t Give Me a Full Account of His Affair? 1/20/2021
Video Q&A Should I Ask Him the Questions I Have About Presents That He Gave to Her? 12/17/2020
Video Q&A How Do I Move Forward with My Husband If There Is No Disclosure? 12/17/2020
Video Q&A What Is the Census of Disclosing the Affair to the Affair Partner's Spouse? 11/18/2020
Video Q&A How Do I Remember Details of the Affair That I Seem to have Repressed? 11/12/2020
Video Q&A Does This Program Offer Someone Who Can Sit with Us through the Disclosure Process? 10/29/2020
Video Q&A Do You Recommend Sharing the Discovery Week of Harboring Hope with My Wayward Spouse? 10/22/2020
Video Q&A How Does One Determine What Not to Share with Their Spouse While Remaining Open and Honest? 10/22/2020
Video Q&A What Do I Do When I Don't Believe Something That He Consistently Says Is True? 10/05/2020
Video Q&A How Do We Get to the Truth? 10/05/2020
Video Q&A Can You Please Give Me Some More Information on a Written Disclosure? 9/02/2020
Video Q&A What Can I Do If I Now Have Too Much Detail? 9/02/2020
Video Q&A Is My Spouse Telling the Truth? 8/18/2020
Video Q&A Am I Wrong to Ask for Details? 8/18/2020
Video Q&A Why Do We Sometimes Ask the Same Questions Repeatedly? 8/13/2020
Video Q&A How Can I Heal When I Still Feel I Don't Have Full Disclosure and May Never Get It? 8/13/2020
Video Q&A Are Polygraphs Helpful and What Types of Questions Are Recommended? 8/06/2020
Video Q&A Is This Normal or Is There Something Wrong with Me? 7/30/2020
Video Q&A How Do We Reach Full Disclosure If My Wife Doesn’t Remember the Details? 6/25/2020
Video Surviving Infidelity Part 2: What Didn’t Work For Unfaithful Spouses 6/24/2020
Text Surviving Infidelity Part 1: What Do You Need to Know? 6/17/2020
Video Q&A How Do I Help Someone That Won't Come Clean? 6/10/2020
Video Q&A How Do I Now Distinguish between Truth and Deception? 6/03/2020
Video Q&A Approximately How Long Should the Reaction Task Last? 6/03/2020
Video Q&A What Are Your Thoughts about Our Disclosure Process? 5/07/2020
Video Q&A How Do We Heal without Full Disclosure? 5/07/2020
Video Q&A What If You Feel the Wayward Spouse Is Not Telling the Whole Truth during the Telling of Their Story? 5/07/2020
Video Q&A Can a Couple Really Benefit from Doing This Work Every Week without the Wayward Spouse Initiating and Participating in Disclosure Attempts? 3/03/2020
Video Q&A How Can We Reach Honesty without Creating Triggers? 2/20/2020
Video Q&A Why Shouldn't the Betrayed Spouse Confront the Affair Partner? 2/14/2020
Video Q&A How Do I Handle My Anxiety as My Wife Learns How to Share? 2/11/2020
Video Q&A Should My Mate Be Cautious of the Comparison Questions She Is Asking? 1/31/2020
Video Q&A Was I Wrong for Questioning Him or Is There a Better Way I Could’ve Approached This? 1/16/2020
Video Q&A What Is ‘Therapeutic Disclosure’ as It Relates to Pre-Polygraph Testing? 1/16/2020
Video Q&A How Do I Get past the Different Versions of the Story? 1/09/2020
Video Q&A How Can I Ever Trust Again without Knowing the Full Truth? 1/09/2020
Video Q&A Why Wasn't My Husband Honest with Me? 1/03/2020
Video Q&A Why Does the Affair Partner Want to Meet Me? 1/02/2020
Video Q&A How Do We Differentiate between What Secrets Are Safe to Keep and Which Should Be Shared? 12/19/2019
Video Q&A How Can I Fix the Problem of Trickle Truth? 12/16/2019
Video Q&A Is It Normal to Feel Numb after so Much Trickle Truth? 12/05/2019
Video Q&A How Can I Begin to Trust with All of the Trickle Truth Happening? 12/05/2019

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